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It is easy to blame the mother

In clinic. Just seen a distressed mum and a distressed baby boy, 10-month old. He is not sleeping,  crying,  screaming and waking every hour or so. Also, not eating and will only suckle from the breast. He’s not growing, he’s losing weight. Mother has sought help from a lot of different doctors and a paediatrician – she says she feels blamed for her child illness.

“Every time I go along to the doctors, I feel bashed down. It’s like hitting my head against a brick wall.  I began to think that I must be going insane. I became suspicious that it was all in my head.”

Yes.  It is all so easy to blame the mother … or blame the child for bad behavior.

But this baby has gastro-oesophageal reflux disease. He screams with food. He had colic and reflux early on. He needs medication to treat his heartburn. I expect him to be better very soon. We need to treat children seriously … it is not okay to blame the mothers.

The Childrens Clinic helps lots of these misunderstood families

Dr Rodney Ford